What do you call yourself after divorce?

[INeedMoreThanThis]

I wouldn't want to have a different name to my children so don't want to revert to my maiden name.

However the title of Ms is still hard to get through to people. My Mum stayed as Mrs but I guess that was a professional decision.

What do other people think? I'm middle aged so was shying away from Miss.

I can't decide. Hope this isn't an inflammatory topic. What do other people think. Am starting new job so professional name not an issue.

There are several threads on this already.

Call yourself whatever you're comfortable with. There are no rules.

I've just reverted to my maiden name. One DD still has XH's name, but the other changed her name when he buggered off. I have gone back to Miss - I hate Ms, although I am not sure why.

Me too Little Candle

I appreciate I can call myself whatever I want but I was asking people's opinions and thoughts.

When mine came through, I'd call myself happy

Ms I'm-Not-A-Fool-You-Idiot

Is that what you mean?

I'm going with Ms. Could never see the point of it until now, but I want to keep the same surname as my kids but don't want to be Mrs as in a few months won't actually be married.

Lucky, free, relieved, liberated.....[Smile]

I am Ms Maiden Name

I am different to my children, but always have been professionally anyway so it's not like they're not used to hearing the name.

I asked the kids if they wanted to change their name to my Maiden Name. DS (18) said no and DS (8) said he'd like to be called Steve

For me it was more important to cut the association with my ex's name and go back to who I was before.

I call myself the luckiest Gal alive!!!!

Can you still be 'Mrs'?? I'd like to just keep that as I don't want to be different from my kids. Is that possible? Are you automatically a Ms when you're divorced? X

I've changed loyalty cards to 'Lady', 'Dame' etc where possible. Usually stick with 'Ms' for official stuff as 'Miss' suggests an unmarried woman and although divorced I still like to acknowledge I was married before.

Can you still be 'Mrs'?? I'd like to just keep that as I don't want to be different from my kids. Is that possible? Are you automatically a Ms when you're divorced?

Nobody is automatically anything at any point in their lives.

I kept my married name and the title mrs for years. I wanted the same name as my ds.

Only just thinking of changing back to my maiden name now he's grown up. Dp hates me using my ex husbands name. I just see it mine and ds name. (Shrug)

Do whatever you're comfortable with.

When I got divorced I became Ms married-name because I quite liked my ex's surname and the hassle involved in changing it to that was a pain so I couldn't be bothered going back the way. However I did change back to my maiden name when started trying for a baby with my new partner because baby was def getting my surname and I figured that her dad would put up less of a fight if it wasn't my exH's surname! So I'm now Ms maiden name. I've always used Ms though.

Mrs and Miss are abbreviations of the Victorian title Mistress - think Far from the madding crowd by Hardy.

Don't suppose it really matters except I don't think you can say single on official forms.

Ms zo. Same as when I was married :)