After 23 years of marriage I have finally admitted to myself that I am desperately unhappy and told my husband that it's over. I have tried to leave him before, three times in fact, and each time he has convinced me that I should stay using all kinds of emotional tactics, I'm scared he will do this again. He's not a bad man he just wont let me go. He is 11 years older than me, I was 18 when we got together. I never had a life of my own and now I resent him deeply for that. I want out, my son is fully grown and I want to find out who I am. Am I being selfish? Should I stay for his sake?....I feel I have no-one to talk to...