I think I'm going to be getting a divorce.

[Idontknowwhoiam]

We can't stop arguing.
Nothing the other does is good enough.
We've had a sensible conversation about finances and how we would mange the childcare etc.
I don't know what to do.
I didn't expect it.
It's come out of the blue.

Sorry you've had a shock. Has he been planning this for a while?

It's more of a mutual agreement. We were ok a month ago and now we seem to have hit a stalemate where neither of us are willing to bend for the other.
I can't see how we can back down. We can't see each others point of view

Counselling sounds a better option.

Counselling would definitely be better as divorcing really should be the final option.

When relationships feel so difficult it's often feels like the only solution but could just be a poor phase of communication.
If you are both to blame counselling could help.

PS arguing is a choice.If communication looks like it's escalating into an argument, suggest a time out and walk away.
You can't control his responses but you can decide you will react differently.

If you can keep your cool the issues become much clearer.
It could be you have an aggressive hostile husband that wont compromise and only by standing back do you see it.

Non violent communication is an excellent book to read especially if you both read it.

If you can genuinely say you were ok a month ago then try counselling before divorce - not being able to see the others point of view may just be a temporary and resolvable situation,but these things often feel permanent when you are in the middle of them.