Hi everyone, all new to me this but I need to talk to someone, as I don't think I am handling the situation very well, I have been married 27 years and with my wife 30 years ,about 5 weeks ago my wife who didn't go out much went to a new friends house for a girls night, she has known this new friend for about 6 months, my wife previously never worked for 9 years to raise our son who is now 12, and started her new job 10 months ago, anyway the last 2-3 months I had noticed a change in her, always buying new clothes, losing weight, more care to he hair, etc etc, so on this night out she did not come home, did not text or call, did not answer my text or calls, I was very concerned as she had never done this before, she came home the next day saying she went out clubbing from the party and then stayed at another woman from her works house. I was angry that she never answered my calls or called/texted she said she should have, and a half hearted apology , I asked if she had been with someone else and she said no, do you not trust me, probably shouldn't have asked but felt I had to, she stayed with me another 2 days as I still didn't let it go, then said she need time to think and went to her mothers , after a week she said she didn't want to be with me, as she didn't love me anymore, I was heartbroken , I found out last week that she had lied and had sex with another man that night she went out, then I found out a day later who it was and I know the person as I to work at the same place but on opposite shift from my wife, this makes thing real difficult for me as I see my wife at changeover and her new man, my wife is 50 and he is 37, I can't get over the lies and she has told, as for my son, he stays with me in our house and is very angry at what my wife has done, to the point he doesn't want to see much of her, she would come and watch him when we swapped shifts, but I want to do this on my own which will be a struggle, my wife is out every weekend partying , call my son every other day but it is brief, I feel like I want to punish my wife through my son , I know this is wrong, but she seems to be liking her new life, I was nothing but a good hard working husband who was never unfaithful and didn't deserve this, as I said at the top I am struggling to cope, any advice please.