Dear friends,
Please advise, if you can?
I'm married for 15 years to a man 20 years older than me ( he's now 65 and I'm 44). We have an adopted son (9).
There are a number of factors that worry me with our relationship. Essentially I know I should ask for a divorce but I'm scared.
How hubby will take the news?
Splitting the house?
How it affects my son?
Can I afford to be on my own?
I've always been doubtful of our relationship, certainly for the last 11 years but I just plod on day to day, living a day at a time, busy myself with my son and work, which makes things more tolerable, I'm just existing but I don't want to carry on living like this forever.
Surely my hubby can't be happy either but he never says anything. I wonder why he doesn't question why there's no affection between us?
The age gap is becoming more of a factor the older we get. There is no sexual chemistry, i like him but don't fancy him anymore. I can't remember when we last had sex and I'd like to be in an affectionate relationship. He's not a bad man and looks after the house as he's now retired. We argue a lot, mainly instigated by me as I'm so unhappy. I feel subconsciously if I cause a rift maybe he will end things.
I wonder if it's better for our son if we stay together or split. As he's adopted he's had an uncertain life and he hates change. Will he get used to things if we split? But then again, being exposed to parents who don't display affection and argue isn't good either.
im also how husband will take my news and how family will take it ( including his older children in their 30's). But do I put up with a life that makes me sad???
I know there's a lot here.
Sorry to burden everyone. Feeling lost right now.