Meet the Other Phone. Child-safe in minutes.

Meet the Other Phone.
Child-safe in minutes.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Divorce/separation

Here you'll find divorce help and support from other Mners. For legal advice, you may find Advice Now guides useful.

Contesting unreasonable behaviour divorce

6 replies

lovecamping · 11/07/2017 11:23

Asking for advice more than anything...
I want to divorce on the grounds of unreasonable bahaviour (drugs related but won't be mentioned in the docs).. WH is saying he will contest it.. what would be my next course of action if he contested??
Any advice/kind words & experiences would be greatly appreciated. I have seen a solicitor but feel would need to pay now for this kind of advice.. thank you

OP posts:
Racmactac · 11/07/2017 12:56

It is extremely rare for someone to contest a divorce. He would have to complete the form in certain timescales and then provide a full answer within so many days. Then the court will hold a hearing!

If he ignores papers then you can arrange for somebody to personally serve him and proceed anyway.

Or hopefully he goes and sees a solicitor who tells him not to be so bloody stupid.

AnnettePrice · 11/07/2017 14:01

My ex contested as he didn't like the reasons. His response was not reasoned, it was just a character assassination of me. It went for review and then the nisi was granted.
It slowed it down by about a month (it was slowed down more by BstE loosing papers, but that's another story).
In the end he was also told by court to pay court costs.

You could prime your STBXH and tell them that they can rather than contest, when they don't contest they can also put that they don't agree to the reasons for the divorce but they agree to the divorce. This might help things move more swiftly and your STBXH can stay happy his on mind by staying in denial about their behaviour

Onedaysoooon · 11/07/2017 14:03

My exh threatened to do this but didn't actually do it in the end. It is very rare as a legal advisor would tell them not to.

Lucie8881 · 11/07/2017 15:36

As PP had mentioned, contesting a divorce petition isn't as straight forward as he may think. There are extra forms involved, timelines to be adhered to and the potential of extra costs incurred (I was the petitioner in my divorce but I can't remember now whether the act of contesting itself meant extra fees or just the potential of extra court costs)

He would be foolish to contest if at the end of the day he too wants the divorce to be granted, it adds an extra step in the process with little gain to be had.

lovecamping · 11/07/2017 16:39

Thank you everyone for your replies. That's really helpful to know. WH is just trying to threaten things and getting nasty. Thanks again.

OP posts:
seventhgonickname · 12/07/2017 11:27

Get a solicitor.Make sure they realise he may contest it.My ex just put in a bit about not agreeing to all of it but didn't contest.
Unreasonable is about what you find unreasonable not him.Personaly I would keep the drugs bit in.
Even if he contests items would be highly unusual for him to win and would cost him more.
Grit your teeth,make your list and don't minimise.You will get through this ,don't get disheartened if it takes a while(it does),I found that if I said to myself when I'd had a really good day that it will be like this every day, and it is.

New posts on this thread. Refresh page
Swipe left for the next trending thread