Finances is thus a normal way to proceed?

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We are just starting the divorce process so not much background. Basically, regarding finances since I asked DH for a divorce he has been desperate to get me to agree a number for a divorce settlement. My solicitor (who has a reputation for getting a good results - somewhat at the cost of family relations) has told me not to enter into discussions with him about finances. H is very money savvy and keeps on telling me it is normal for people to agree finances between themselves. Whilst I do kind of trust him, I don't want to put all my faith in him in case he is trying to shaft me.

So my question - is H right? Do people agree finances between themselves without a solicitor?

This is the split I am going for under similar circumstances with high earning ex and me now only working 16 hours a week having given up my career to stay at home with kids until they went to school. It's encouraging to hear someone in a similar position achieved this

User - there are many cases now going through like this.
I have a degree and I had a career.
Judges are very often supportive of this kind of imbalance.
Our Judge also said Wasband had to pay ALL court costs - hadn't even asked for that!

@rainybo i haven't discussed divorce yet just waiting for my DH to decide to talk to me but it's inevitable (just being punished at the mo) - I think we will end up like u but how do u still get maintenance if DH is seeing child the "appropriate " amount not to have to pay? My DH will try to shaft me for everything I think

Get yourself a decent solicitor, advice from Gingerbread and say as little to him about money as possible. x