Ex and I split up when dd was 4, she is now 11. He cheated and I always planned that I wouldn't tell her about this until she was an adult, and then only if she asked.
I try very hard to be amicable with him despite him being quite difficult. She sees him regularly and has a good relationship with both of us.
Last night, ex dropped dd off and I asked him if he could contribute to her school uniform. He began arguing with me so I asked him to leave. Dd was then upset with me, saying I was horrible to her dad, this turned into an argument and although I can't remember why, she called me a liar. I responded with ok, if you want the truth, here it is. I then told how I have tried to keep things friendly with her father for years and she may think he's wonderful, but the reason he left was because he cheated. I was just tired of being the bad guy while he can do nothing wrong.
She has been ok with this so far. She says she is disappointed with him and he's not the person she thought he was. But I feel terrible, like I've damaged her and her relationship with her dad. I said it in the heat of the moment and I wish I could take it back.
Km just wondering if anyone has done anything similar and how their kids have been ?