Partner threatening suicide if I leave ..

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Really stuck. Mine and my partner's nearly 5 year relationship is coming to an end - for me at least. Becoming very unhealthy with the constant arguing and my eldest child expressed her upset to me last night. She was distraught at seeing me upset, doesn't like her step father amongst other things. We have no children together but live together. I recently suddenly lost my beloved father aged 56 and I'm still experiencing very raw pain. We have tried to sort things on many occasion and nothing works..

My major issue is, the last time I tried to leave he threatened to kill himself. And has hinted at doing so in previous arguments.
I would have still walked away but after his previous marriage broke down he did actually try to kill himself - twice and was committed to a mental health unit and suffered with depression for a long time.

So these are not empty words and because I do still love and will always care for him I could never live with that. I just want him to understand he can be happy again .. but he says he cannot imagine life without me.

I'm stuck 😞

Offer to go to his GP with him. . He needs professional help. You aren't responsible for his life. Staying out of guilt will damage you and your dd. .

You have to leave. Report your concerns to his doctor and call the police if he threatens suicide.

You are not responsible for the actions of someone else.worse kind of emotional blackmail.the fact he failed twice should let you know it is a hollow threat to be totally honest. Good luck

This is emotional abuse. Do not listen to it.

My soon to be ex does this. I just laugh now as I know he won't and it's an empty threat. At the end of the day you're not responsible for another persons actions, only your own.

It's emotional abuse. Next time he threatens call the 101 number to report it and ask they send someone to assist him. He won't do it again.

It's so sad that your eldest child doesn't like him, and you're all unhappy. He is manipulating you by making suicide threats and it is abusive. Either leave him anyway, if you can, or if the abuse means it is too hard then contact Women's Aid for some further support to leave.

You're not stuck, you just have to do the right thing.

You have to put your CHILD first, not a manipulative adult.

I get that it scares you, but he is an adult, it's his choice. Call his family, friends & GP and make them aware of the situation.

Then get the hell out with your children. You & they deserve more than this.

You can do it 💐

I suffered with this for 5 years OP. I understand is very delicate what you are going through. I also think that is obviously emotional black mail but unlike some here think , I believe he could still go ahead and actually do it, I've seen it before , and that's probably why you are writing ....
Don't face this on your own OP, real or not , it's not your problem , you have a child and that's affecting both of you , he needs help.
Call the police if you need to and explain that you need to be escorted out of your property and that your partner needs to referred to a mental health team .