There's a lot of back story to this situation in terms of the actual relationship, I dont think it's really relevant to the question I have so will cut to the point that I'm at right now.
After a ten year relationship I'm getting nearer to the point of saying enough is enough. There are two very young children, neither yet at school.
Due to my husbands job and the shifts he works I am unable to have a substantial job (because I'm looking after the children when he works), and so i work on an ad hoc basis. Some weeks I can work no hours, some weeks I could do up to 30 hours. An average is probably more like 10 hours a week. It is unpredictable, but it has fitted around his job and been enough of an "extra" income on top of his to keep the family afloat. However it's nothing like enough for me to go it alone!
So the massive thing that's holding me back now (from leaving I mean) is money.
How can I get myself and the children somewhere to live without a regular and substantial income of my own?
Even if we weren't together, my availability for work (or lack of) would still be dictated by his hours, as I'd be reliant on him to look after the children when I worked, just as he would be reliant on me having them when he worked. So my availability for work would remain what it is now.
Is this doable? Can I provide a happier home for me and my children if I leave?