Morning all, this is my first post so please be gentle with me.
Ever since I had my second child me and my partner have had nothing but problems. I never got my sex drive back but he always made me feel guilty and said he would go elsewhere if we didn't have sex so I just went with the flow and just got it over and done with, roll on two years later since august 2016 he has moved out numerous times straight to his mothers claiming it's all my fault, giving me the silent treatment etc bit because I loved him I was always stupid enough to let him back into our life's and move back in. This happened around 3 times since then because obviously it always goes back to how it was.
His priorities are his work, bike and himself. My priorities are the kids. Always have been, I've done all the school runs, meetings, events, parties for the kids with little to no help from him.
If I ever brought this up with him and challenged him he would turn it on me saying I'm saying he is a bad dad etc and not talk to me for days if not weeks on end.
It all came to a head in Feb 17 when he hadn't been talking to me for a few weeks after he had accused me of sleeping with his cousin, meeting other men, letting myself go, questioning me if I went out with mum friends or got a text constantly having a go saying I'm not giving him much attention so he moved out again. Got all of his stuff and moved back to his mums. He is a child.
I've always had to fight for him to see his kids with is stupid, why should I, but I did it for my kids.
This one instance I dropped off my son at his mums and he flew round the corner in a rage with me and attacked me in front of our son. Luckily I was able to get out, grab my son and call the police. Unfortunately because it was my word against his and his parents charges where never brought as I had no physical injuries.
(Nearly there I promise)
I stupidly took him back but he stayed with his parents. He never told anyone we were back together as he wanted to know for sure it's what he wanted.
We had a pre booked holiday which we still went on but it ended in disaster where I was just sorting the kids and he was getting pissed so when we came back I said no more it's done.
Since then he has gone silent on me, not talked to me for 3 weeks, seen the kids twice for a few hours upon my insistence, he has been nasty, told me to fuck off etc.
I've since found out since august 2016 he has been on dating websites and meeting girls behind my back. I'm devastated but I don't know why because he has hurt me and dragged me down for the last 6 years and mentally abused me since the kids making out I'm a shit girlfriend etc.
I want to take control, I don't want to feel like this, we don't need him and the house is so much happy without him in it I'm just so bloody mad he has and is still treating us like this.
I don't know what help I want I just think I wanted to write it all down so gain perspective of the situation.
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