My ex cheated three years ago, we separated and finally divorced last September. He left me with 50K worth of debt I had no idea about and the agreement was I would pay the mortgage on my own and take on the debt and he would get say £6k from the house on sale, as well as make all the repairs to the house to make more sellable. The reason for this he chose to work part time 30 hours a week so I thought I would find a solution I work full time and always have because he always got part time jobs. Since we have separated.divorced Ihave told him he needs to get another job more hours etc but he say does not want to.
So skip forward to this April, divorce finalised last September house sold he got his money plus another £2k on top of what was agreed.
He texts me ranting about how he has no money and how I ripped him off, how he never read any of the divorce papers presented to him and I put him under pressure to sign them (false, whenever he came to sign things I always made a point in front of witnesses for him to read them before signing) we did our own divorce with help from an online lawyer to help fill out and submit the paperwork, we both signed a waiver to the judge saying we understood our agreement and that we had not got legal advice but had both waived that right).
So now he is threatening to take me to back to court because he wants more money and his life is cr*p, he refuses to pay the £40 a week maintenance for his daughter as says he cannot afford and I don't need it, considering it goes into a bank account for her use not mine !
So my question is this a) would you chase him through the CSA for the maintenance because at the end of the day he should pay for his child.
B) can he actually drag me back into court when we had a closed divorce and absolute issued etc when I never hid assets or gave fraudulent information and the judge signed off as a fair deal? I could do with the drama of it all. (At the time of his leaving the 50k dealt was more than half of the equity value of the house, but because I had to spend 3 years on my butt, with two kids paying off the debt living on the breadline I could not afford to divorce him at the time, and no one would touch me because of all the credit cards he had opened in my name without my permission and knowledge) the house three years on had risen in price and this allowed me to get rid of the marital home and find a new home for me and my kids, away from bad memories and pay off the remaining debt.
I think the issue is that I moved on with my life and his little teen he had the affair with has not stuck around and he wanted back and I refused because this was the last straw in a long line of things that he had put me through in 26 years.
Sorry bit long winded but am just so sick of being threatened with this everytime he has no money or I ask what he is doing about his maintenance, I have been fair and nice throughout when I had every reason not when his Teen affair made mine and the kids life a living hell with text messages, but I never did I stopped access to the kids, even though in recent month he never contacts his daughter (my son is 21 now and chooses to not speak to his dad unfortunately) and never bothers to see or talk to her unless he wants to remind her its his birthday!