Parenting marriage

[meneri]

Hello, H and I have been talking about our relationship and we both agree our feelings for each other have changed. We have a 2 1/2 yo ds and we are both concerned how separation might affect him. We get on very well (more as friends than a couple) and we rarely have discussions in front of ds although we do have discussions. I don't depends on him financially and we jointly own a house. I have been reading about parenting marriage and I was wondering if anybody has tried it? He seems sceptical but I think it could be a good compromise short term, if we manage to have our separate lives while raising ds...

I wouldn't do this as a short-term solution. If you do it, it should be a long-term goal. I also think it's best not to start anything too muddy - separate and clarify as much as possible while you are getting on well, as the day could come when you aren't. What you really don't want is an acrimonious divorce when he is seven, instead of a peaceful one he can barely remember because he was two and a half.

Have you considered the nest model? Where the children stay in the house and the parents look after them there, alternating. This method is usually expensive (as you have to run at least one additional flat, usually two) but gives the kids a lot of stability.

I'm wondering about this too-I saw it on a webpage and realise I am in by by default, I suggested to my wife and she said she thought it was a good idea, but there some practical difficulties have appeared.
Like, how does one have an extra marital relationship without the kids finding out? Mine are 13 and 15. Surely all your friends would have to know too?