DH stayed at home and worked one day per week up until last September when DD started full time school.
He worked one day a week in paid employment for the 2 years preceeding her birth and he was "developing" a freelance career which has never come to anything. He does approx half a day freelance a week on average.
I have no access to the money he earn's, some is cash in hand, and he refused to disuss family finances and takes no responsibility for family financial matters.
I work full time and do more than half of the housework and childcare.
I bought our house last year, I put down a £25k deposit of my money from sale of my old house (bought with money inherited from my grandmother before we met - we never lived there together).
Before I bought the house we rented.
He has never owned property. Mortgage is in my name - he can't get a mortgage given his employment status and he has never saved, even before we met.
His reason not to work is that it's his choice, that he wants to develop his freelance career (which he's been "trying" to do for 7 years). He tells me it's outrageous that he would be expected to work should we split.
He currently has an entire room to himself as a man cave - sorry "office".
Hes talking about splitting (I want to try to make our relationship work).
Can I ask him to move out if he chooses to split, and find his own place (he thinks he can stay living here, with me earning the money).
Will I have to pay his living his costs given his refusal to work?