My stbxh and I got a child contact order....lots of abuse and ending in section 7 report after failing on being amicable, including a 2 yr non molestation order against him...sadly. Kids are 10 and 9, ds's and 3 yr old dd.
There have been lots of little issues for me that I've had to let go of (media content, no routines), also the fact that he as refused to continue with my dd amazing bedtime habits (she's slept through the night from 5wks old and been in her own room for 2 and half yrs). He let's her sit up watching tv/films every night until she fall asleep then puts her in his bed. The boys share the pull out couch in the lounge and he sleeps with dd. She now is awful at bedtime and won't sleep on her own at home and is having separation issues. Which is NOT like her at all.
The final straw is that he has left all 3 at home whilst going to the shop. He also baths during the day leaving them to their own devices which has resulted in fights between all the children.
Nobody will help/intervene with regards to helping him deal with having children ....he also has been on the sick for 6 yrs for mental health issues (depression, although he just stopped going to the mental health clinic).
Surely this is neglect? I have been told I can ask to change the order....to the sum of £300. But I just want him to look after them properly. Social services say it's not down to them but me to suspend contact if I know this is happening as otherwise I'm condemning it and can also be done for neglect for willingly letting my children go to him. But if I do suspend contact, I am in breach of a contact order and can be heavily fined.
It's really affecting the children's behaviour and I don't know what to do anymore.