Can a divorce be finalised without finances being sorted?

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I just want to cut as many ties as possible - I don't want to be married to him but it's taking forever to come to a financial agreement

Can I be divorced before the finances are sorted or do I have to wait? There's no one else, he's agreed to my initial petition etc

Its a really bad idea. Unless you can just cope without any sharing of resources. Otherwise there is no incentive for him to ever settle.

Placemarking and panicking!

All I want off him is maintenance for the DC (I've applied through the csa - he's going to hit the roof)

I've said he can walk away debt and asset free . The equity in the house cancels out our debts. He's just spiteful and thinks everything is not fair on him

It's not a good idea
Solicitors advise against it

I did and my solicitor didn't advise against it. There are circumstances where you shouldn't though so take some advice.

Speak to your solicitor.

I think a risk would be that you pay off the debt and then he claims a share of the equity when you settle the finances...

Solicitors will always advise against it as it CUTS their fees big time!,

Im shocked how much advice people give to speak to solicitors before doing whats right for you as its the woman who has to pay her fees

Well obviously don't pay any fees to a lawyer if you understand all the law or like a gamble and have nothing to lose.

You dont need to have continuous legal involvement in negotaiting the deal - I didnt. I just made sure my lawyer advised me on the principles of weighing up the assets correctly - including the pension calculations, debts, housing assets, relative salaries and expenditure. I did need a bit advice on how to offset our different pension allowances v. the housing assets. But then I negotiated all the rest with my X.

But I guess if you know all that stuff already go ahead. Good luck! The most bitter divorced women I know didn't get good advice and now feel very cheated as they lost out big time or got saddled with paying off their X's debts.

It also depends where you live, you have to agree all the finances etc., before you can divorce in Scotland.

Also, don't forget value of pension, if either of you altered your working pattern because of the marriage.

Well, not all pension claims! Just claims for widow's pension under the other side's pension if they should happen to die before finances are sorted out. Some bereavement benefits if you have kids (but those have been massively reduced), again only relevant if the other side dies.

Some issues if property isn't in joint names.

Sometimes there are tactical considerations, like someone wanting to get remarried.

Sometimes it's fine, sometimes it's absolutely the right thing, sometimes it's a massive act of self sabotage. It all depends.

I did and my solicitor didn't advise against it. There are circumstances where you shouldn't though so take some advice.

I did a Financial order with my ex my DH didn't. His solicitor didn't advise against it either as it's never going to get sorted. Took steps in other areas to safeguard assets post separation. Sometimes it has to be this way (depending on the other party).