Getting over a narcissist

[youvegottofallbeforeyoufly]

Recently separated from narc ex. I thought I was handling it pretty well......until I saw him. He's made up so many lies about me and said absolutely inexcusable things (especially in court papers) but I still love him....or at least the man I fell in love with. I hate myself for feeling this way but I just cant help it. I still romanticise over all that could have been and all the good times that we had. There is no way on earth I would get back with him. He's just making it so hard to move on x

I'm in exactly the same situation and it's horrible. I'll be checking back here, as I have no idea how to move on 😢 I completely understand how shit it is, and hope you can to terms with it sooner rather than later xx

I was with a narc too youvegot. Had all of the making stuff up in court papers too. It was shocking. Having experienced a few years of it, I'd say that the stuff in the court papers is intended to get a reaction from you. They don't care if it's negative or positive, they just enjoy and crave the reaction.

Same here, gave stbxh the opportunity to divorce me so it would be amciable and he wrote an awful petition.

Time and distance is a healer.I am 6 months down the line and generally feel much happier.

In my weaker moments I re read my journal and I realise why I am divorcing.Think back to the times that they made you feel dreadful, the good times tend to be eclipsed by the bad times.

You can feel free of them but it takes a little while.