Long story short.... married over 25 years, one DD (teenager), I'm from abroad. Decree nisi earlier in the year.
I've come to the gradual realisation that he's not just a difficult man - he is an emotional abuser. We have lived tiptoeing on eggshells for years. Hideously we all still live together.
He wants 2/3rds of the matrimonial pot (approx. £300,000 total) so he can buy a wee flat. 'no-one thinks about me' he bleated. That's all we have done for years.
I cannot tell you how angry I was at this first mediation meeting that he took nearly 3 months to organise. Clearly I did not agree...
second one is later this week. I have a time pressure as DD is nearly at exam stage and we will be moving to my home country once sorted.
He is not yet threatening not to let her go but my solicitor has warned me that it is likely to happen. So I am looking at court for a child removal permission and for finance.
Can't see him agreeing at this second mediation to anything sensible if he even turns up.
Can anyone advise how long it has taken to sort out something like this in court once the solicitor has been set loose?
OMG. It's all so stressful. 
But I could NOT keep living like I was. 