A few months ago I gave birth to my first child and my partner and I had the usual arguments - I had a touch of post natal depression and although I was ready for a child nothing prepared me for the change. After 3 months my partner said the relationship had changed, the spark was gone and he was unsure whether he wanted to stay. That I had changed since I left the hospital, was high maintenance, demanding and had become a weak woman. After a few weeks of him pretending to want to be with me he left. He said he didn't love me anymore and had stopped loving me later in pregnancy even though he pretended to all our family and friends that he loved me to bits, was going to marry me and talked about having more children. When he left he blamed me for everything and still does. He assainated my character to anyone who would listen including friends and family. It was and is still devastating. He even sent his mum around with a list of all the things I had ever done in our relationship to upset him, every argument and mishap. She screamed at me and my child for 3hrs and even threatened to take my son. His family believes everything he says and they blame me. They say I forced him to leave. Everyone I have spoken to even therapists tell me that he ran from his child and his responsibilities. He is a 36 year old man who has always lived at home and never had a serious girlfriend so I was the first woman he truly committed to. We were together 2.5 years and actively tried for a child. He said he really wanted a family with me. When we told his family we were expecting his mum didn't take the news well and wasn't pleasant to me from that day forward. It caused lots of stress. She never gave me any support once I had my son and barely made the effort to see him but of course I'm to blame for that.
Now him and his family are kicking up a stink about access to my son. They just want to take my son away from me to bring around to his parents house. They have no consideration as to how that affects me and my son - he doesn't even know who his father is anymore. He cries every time he had seen him.
What type of man does that to his partner and mother of his child?
How do you get through the pain and move forward?
Partner walks out on 3 month old - how do you move forward?
MaryB123 · 21/03/2017 21:04
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