In the very early days of separating from DH – we're kind of agreed, but still living together and family (including DS) don't know yet. I'm the one who initiated the split, because of general relationship stuff rather than abuse/affair/anything like that.
DH has organised for us to start mediation to sort out what will happen with DS (who's 8). That sounds probably a good idea to me, I'm just wondering what to expect? My view is that we should do joint custody as we've always parented very equally. I assume that's what DH would want as well, but he won't really say anything about what he's hoping for, just says he doesn't know as he's never done this before. What are they likely to make of it all? Are they normally in favour of 50/50 custody? I really think that would be easiest on DS, he's close to both of us and can't imagine him being happy to spend too much time away from either of us.