Looking for any advice on quite a few different matters.... Will try to be as brief as I can
Currently in process of separating and most likely divorce as soon as possible.
Just a bit of background....
Been with H for 10 years, married for 3.5
Have 2 DC 3 years and 6 months
Just before and after my youngest was born H decided to cheat on me - I found out quite a while after. Foolishly gave him a second chance... He became really remorseful and couldn't be nicer and everything seemed to be working out then all of a sudden his behaviour changed again and he said he wasn't happy and thought we couldn't work it out as I would never forget or forgive for what he had done. I then found out he had been in e mail contact with the same woman throughout the time we were supposed to be working things out.Â
Anyway all the finer details are probably irrelevant.
H has said he will move out and we can stay in house, says he will pay mortgage and child maintainence etc
Wants to do a DIY divorce which I have agreed to but I have insisted on a consent order - is this the right thing to do to ensure he sticks to what he agrees to? Although I understand this doesn't actually come into effect until the divorce is finalised?
H is self employed and has a limited company do even tho I know he gets a high daily rate/wage I know his actual salary as it appears is only 40 something k so even if I took him to court I wouldn't gain much ( so annoying!!).
So I'm thinking we need to agree whether to divorce  on grounds of adultery or unreasonable behaviour or just wait the 2 years. Not sure of the pros and cons of each of the options.
I am also on maternity leave but trying to work out whether it's going to be better off for me to not go back to work at all (then no childcare costs) or go back part time or full time?
I'm also not sure what happens in meantime from now until divorce - is he obliged to keep paying for everything he has always paid for ??
I'm just so confused and stressed out - don't need all this on top of a 6 month baby who never sleeps and a very troublesome toddler!!
If anyone can help with advice on any of the above is be so so grateful
Thanks
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