So. I'm divorcing. I've already asked for advice here about various things but my main concern now is what to do for the best for my 3 year old girl. Please give me your opinions!!
Ive now reached a point where it feels like my daughter will be better off without her father or his family in her life. But Im struggling to make that decision for her. It feels like the right thing to do, I don't know what else to do but I'm exhausted, confused and scared about making such a momentous decision.
Briefly (?!) here's the background:
When her father and I agreed to separate 6 months ago, I'd assumed he'd stay involved with her, have her on his days off work, be keen to see her lots. But no.
My concerns/my rant: He rarely sees her, he's still running and hiding from the CMA and hasn't paid anything for her. He tells me frequently that he can't see our daughter because he's seeing his new girlfriend instead. He never even phones our daughter. We've had several mediation sessions in which he's made it clear that his daughter is not a priority to him. It's been 2 months since he last saw her (he asked to have her for 2 hours, his mum and dad were visiting...) and it was 6 weeks before that when he had her for a morning... And, he lives about 2 minutes walk away from us... He didn't give her any Christmas or birthday presents. He's behaved HORRIBLY towards me since we separated to an extent that is truly jaw-droppingly shocking and incredible e.g. assaulted me then tried to have me arrested (!!!), sent the police to my elderly, retired school-teacher parents' house to check on my daughter's welfare (!!!!) and many other things that I never imagined would ever feature on my life.
I've gave up trying to talk to him about anything several months ago. He emailed today with a handful of days that he wants to see our daughter in the next few months. (Less than one day smooth...) Without discussion, he has assumed and continues to assume that I shall have have full responsibility and care for our daughter. He keeps saying, 'If you don't let me see her, I won't fight you...' Urgh!!! 