Changing your name or keeping married name?

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Haven't decided what to do yet. What has everyone else done about their name?

I've had my surname for 13 years - think it would feel weird changing it but perhaps weirder to keep it. I didn't really like my maiden name so thinking I may just go for a new one totally. Maybe my mums maiden name!

Be interested to know what other people do 😁

I kept my married name. XH got remarried last year and she didn't change her surname. I got married this year and double married with my new DHs surname.

I went back to my maiden name and it won't be changing again!

'Stbxh has told me very rudely, absolutely not. ..and doesn't want his children being associated with my family name ...er ok. Oh and he does not want me to (under any circumstances) keep his name, because I have 'sullied his father's name for long enough'

Ugh what a prick. It's your name so YOU decide. Ignore his orders.

My DM kept her married name. She had her married name for 20 years and hated her maiden name so going back to it was never an option for her. It also made life easier when travelling abroad with us kids as we all had the same name.

There was a poster on here who changed her surname to Rose, which was her daughter's middle name. I thought that was a very elegant and creative solution.

I suppose it depends on the age of your children... older one's are unlikely to notice as much if you have different surnames, especially if they are girls as they're likely to lose the family name at some stage anyway. Also would you consider changing again if you remarried?

Yes my daughters are 18 and almost 17, they are fine about it. I definitely wouldn't change it again; I could think of nothing worse than getting married again.

I kept my married name when I divorced my first husband because I preferred it and had qualifications under that name. A couple of years on I decided to switch back to my maiden name as I didn't feel like 'Ms X' anymore. I had moved on and changed as a person. So you can just wait and do it later if you want to.

I'm really looking forward to reverting back to my maiden name. Have considered doing it before the divorce is through by Deedpoll, as I'm setting up a new business and would make sense, but my family have suggested I hang fire.

My married name is difficult to pronounce and my STBXH is a cheat. My Dad is a lovely man married to my Mum for 50 years.

Haven't talked to the kids about it yet, but I don't think they will mind.

Keep your married name because travelling abroad with a different name may need a permission slip?? Not sure but heard similar stories. X