I'm in the process of separating from my husband. He's always been a pretty hands-off dad and worked long hours.
The children love me much more to the point they complain when I have to go out for an hour and he looks after them.
We are separating partly because he doesn't want to be family man. He moved out 6 - 8 weeks ago (doesn't feel that long!).
I regularly ask the kids how they feel. 7 year old says "fine" nonchalantly. And it seems honestly. She says he was always at work anyway. He sees them regularly. And will support financially.
Our respective families are very traditional and keep saying we should have worked harder to stay together for the children. They wil be damaged in the future. That parents need do be selfless. I should sacrifice what i want for my children. That they may appear fine now but it will manifest itself when they're teenagers. That they "need" their dad. That a mum and dad living together is essential for stability.
It's making me worried and second guess myself.
We do need to separate so there's no chance of reconciliation anyway...
Will my children be ok????????
Will my children be damaged from parents splitting up? 7 & 5
salamandress · 24/09/2016 09:25
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