Ten years ago my husband returned from a family party hidiously drunk , he then proceeded to tell me he never loved me and was leaving me for another woman who cherished him , like i never did! We had a5 yr old and a 1 yr old. He then in his drunken stuper tried to get in our daughters bedroom ,I stopped him and he beat me so badly I ended up In hospital and could not see for two weeks! I felt like my life had entered the world of jeremy Kyle , I was a battered bruised wreck ! Fast forward ten years , I've had no family support ( dad abusive to mum and she enables it) , the kids dad has stolen all the kids money from their accounts and remarried a woman who's equally abusive, he no longer sees then as he has let them down so many times.
But and this is important , in me there was a flicker of strength and bloody anger wrapped around" how dare he do this to me and his children" , so I fought back every time( not physically) , had two years of councelling and grabbed any scrap of fight i had .
Today - I hv just passed a degree , got two job offers this week and my daughter and son are doing great . He's still married to his awful wife and apparently told exactly what to do every day ! Those who wait...eh