Hello, I'm in a bit of a mess here.
My partner and I (we are not married) had an argument on wed eve which got heated because I asked him what he was doing on his phone and he refused to show me. Rightly or wrongly, I grabbed his phone and then he grabbed my arm, I tried to get him off me and pulled into the next room and then he was shouting and getting so angry and wrestled me to the floor with his arm around my neck in a headlock. I was so frightened and couldn't breathe. I asked him to stop. I dropped the phone. He finally stopped and I could barely breathe. I managed to push him back and he said you are mental and made way to the front door. At this point I shoved him and slammed door. It was awful. He's never done anything like that before. He does have issues with anger but never like that. His personality is up and down a lot and life is hectic - we have two children under 2 and the house is often chaotic as you can imagine. I don't know what to do or think.
On the night I called my brother and he called the police becuSe j was in such a. State and my partner was still banging on the doors and windows demeaning to be let back I a nod have his keys. Thankfully he didn't take his keys with him. His mum and dad live Locally and I called them. By which time he had already called them. His mother said I had provoked And then attacked him and I should be ashamed. Clearly no support from her!
The police turned up the next am (shortage of staff) and said I need to decide whether to make a 'formal' statement or not. They said its on record but gangs all they could do for now. They said also I'm in a tricky situation because I don't own the property - only he does - a problem longstanding since we met 3 years ago that is still up in the air. Anyway. I can't change that now, but the whole situation is sticky and complicated and sad.
I feel so down and panicky. I can't believe it happened out of know where and I just don't know what to do for the best :(
Ps. I don't have any other family that can put us up and I am a SAHM so do y have any income of my own. I am trapped.
Please help.