I've been married 14 years. 3 kids. Been miserable for last 8. He moans all the time. We never talk, only argue. He never touches me so not even a kiss for 8 years. Not had sex since conceived youngest child. We shout at each other and then I give in and do everything he expects me to do. Which is pretty much all the jobs round the house inc decorating, gardening, housework. I work 3 days a week, bring a stack of work home with me and he just watched TV and goes to work. He does bugger all to help me and kids. I've had enough. I don't love him, haven't done for ages. Don't even like him most of the time. Got my initial meeting with solicitor next Thursday. Really scared. All my family live him and will take his side. He will go mad. I haven't told him yet, don't know how to. Really tempted to just let him get divorce papers in post. Not sure what solicitor will say. Can't afford to pay her either. Anyone been through similar?