Ex has different ideas about contact

[Heatherjayne1972]

So ex and I split in 2014 he was violent and I had to get a non mol out against him and he finally left last March there was a custody hearing then which he refused to go to so the judge gave me custody of my three kids
Now I'm going to start divorce proceedings the house is sold and me and the kids are moving on but he wants the eldest to live with him and me to never see her. He wants to have the younger ones at weekends only
I think they should all live with me and see him at weekends
We were refused mediation because of the violence
My question is do you think a judge is likely to think my suggestion is better or his

[3littlefrogs]

Is he seeing them at all at the moment?

Is he allowed unsupervised contact?

I think you should let him take you back to court - he may just be trying to throw his weight around. Is the non molestation order still in place?

[EBearhug]

He wants sole custody of the eldest and you never to see her, and he's the one who has been violent? I doubt a judge would agree to that, unless there's some other info.

Are all the children his?

[Heatherjayne1972]

Yes they're all his He sees them all for maybe three hours on a Saturday afternoon ( takes them to the pub!) and takes the eldest out on Sunday morning for breakfast but only if he's not busy and only when it suits him

[kittybiscuits]

He's just trying to scare you. Don't engage other than minimum to arrange contact. Document carefully all contact including trips to the pub. Say nothing and wait for him to file to court. How has he let you know his intentions?

[Heatherjayne1972]

Yes he wrote his intentions down in a very aggressive letter ( which I've kept)