Seperation

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Can my husband decide what maintenance he thinks I deserve if we are separating. Divorce is not on the cards as of yet.

Is this maintenance for yourself or a child?

2 children.

Don't leave it to your husband to give you what he thinks you deserve.

You need to get legal advice to find out what you entitled to and what your rights are. Good luck.

Doesn't this only apply in divorce. He said today that children don't cost anything??

Children don't cost anything? No wonder you are leaving him!

Do a quick check on the CSA (CMS?) calculator. That'll tell you what's expected and you can direct him there also.

If you end up having to go through them it'll cost him extra as they'll charge him a fee so it's really in his interest to go off that sum but do a private arrangement. If he refuses, claim through them.

He puts himself on minimum wage and draws a dividend as its his business
I'm an employee and he's already cutting my hours.

Get legal advice. They will set your straight.

Dividends still
Count as income. You will
NED to get a financial order in place which is completely separate from any divorce proceedings if and when they happen. Good luck.

He's also saying that they will stay with him 2 nights in the week then on weekends either 1, 2 or 0 nights depending on plans etc.
I tried to my input today and he went mad resulting in both kids crying hysterically!
He's thinks he's being very fair and reasonable.
Personally I think he a controlling bully and can't wait to leave his sorry arse!
(Sorry)

Don't allow him to dictate your life. You are effectively single now and you need to work out what is best for the children and yourself then you can begin negotiating access together. Take back the control you have given him.

I have said that we need to agree and at least have a seperate toon agreement drawn up and looked over and approved by lawyer. When he's in a good mood it's fine but if not going his way he retracts.

*seperation