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Ex wants to change contact to see DS 5 every weekend

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Slummamumma · 05/11/2015 09:37

My Ex and I are in the process of divorcing (we separated April 2014). At the start DS wasn't in full time school so he saw his dad every weekend as i had Playdays with him during the week when I wasn't working. Since he started school Sept 14 we have split the contact every other weekend, and as much time in the holidays as he can take off work; I offered some midweek time (we currently live 5 mins away from each other) but he cannot commit to that because of work. The problem I now have is that he has told DS that he is going to talk to me so that they can spend every weekend together. Ex and girlfriend have just had a new baby and DS has said that I am not being fair and he needs to spend more time with his new family. DS is very upset and is now spending every night in my bed and super clingy. He has weekly tantrums shouting and hitting me saying I am a meanie mummy and not fair as I don't let him spend every weekend with his daddy. Every time I explain that we wouldn't be able to do all the things we do at the weekends together he calms down and understands and carries on playing. However after every weekend with daddy he comes back saying the same thing. I don't know what to do. Surely it isn't right that I should do all the parenting during the school week but him not have a fun weekend relationship with me. They Skype roughly twice a week and send txts/emails. Any ideas please, sorry I hope I haven't waffled on too long!

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MidnightVelvetthe4th · 05/11/2015 10:37

Your poor DS, he's really getting full on propaganda from his dad isn't he, he must feel so torn! No its not correct that he should have every weekend with his dad, you need to have fun time too & you are also doing all of the 'heavy' stuff like making him go to school, getting him up & dealing with the unrewarding things.

I second the advice about letting your solicitor know what he's saying & if you can, be more assertive with the ex as at the moment its all about him & what he wants & he's not doing the best thing for your DS.

skyeskyeskye · 05/11/2015 11:32

A woman I know tried to dump her DC on her ex every weekend but the judge wouldn't allow it as he said they also needed weekend time with her so she had to have them 1 in every 4 weekends.

I think EOW is fair to both of you. Hopefully as your DS gets older he could have some midweek contact too.

Slummamumma · 05/11/2015 12:33

Thank you for your messages. I have spoken with my solicitor and she has suggested putting in place a Parenting Plan but suggests that we wait for Ex to sign the Acknowledgement of Service form first. He has a history of being rather difficult! Yes it is awful seeing DS so upset and confused

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darbo · 11/11/2015 15:31

As your son's mother and primary carer you can decide what is best for him. Do not let someone who clearly does not have your son's best interests at heart try to bully the two of you into something you don't want. Be your son's guardian angel.

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