I am going through a messy separation at present and need leag advice.
I have just emailsed this to a local inspector as i feel my partner is setting me up and harassing me to leave the house. Needless to say my ex is a very well thought of police officer. I would be greatful as to legal advice as to what other people thing about what he has being doing. Considering he was able to issue me with a pin in August after texting him about bills and mediation etc.
Here is the email:
Dear Adrian
My apologies for not responding to your email. Thankyou for your response. I am aware that you are not at work 24/7 and if there is an urgent issue i will dial 101.
I need to report a new incident in the form of a letter i received after i had emailed you last asking about Gary making false claims.
I received a letter on the 23rd October at around 1.30pm from his solicitor also claiming i had been keeping him from his daughter and threatening court. He also threatens me with an occupation order again and falsely stated that the mediation has broken down. This caused me great alarm and distress. I haven't slept and have lost a stone in weight over the last few weeks with the stress. Gary has not replied to the email or messages i have sent him about contacting me about Jessica or mediation which has also caused me and Jessica great distress. He has told people, including my Dad, friends, people at his group in Cadets and Lewis's best friend that i am taking his house away and stopping him seeing his daughter in an attempt to isolate me and to use in court. He had claimed this is causing him distress and he is heart-broken, yet he has had all the opportunity in the world to sort out contact with Jessica and i have not taken 'his' house from him at all and have offered to talk to him about terms to move out in mediation. This has distressed Lewis and affected his relationship with his best friend. This unwanted indirect contact via my Dad has also affected my relationship with my Dad. He has caused me inexplicable amounts of distress and confusion since April causing conflicts and arguments to avoid talking to me. He then asked me to text him or email him which i did do in a extremely distressed state feeling hurt and confused and wanting answers. He has also said he will talk to me, write back to me if i text or email him entrapping me to feel i can be honest with him and then not replied which has caused extreme anguish. He has then entrapped me with these texts and emails to use against me to make himself look like the victim and to cause me more distress in the hope i will give in under the pressure and leave with my children. These emails were never sent to him to cause him distress, more the other way round as i sent them in a distressed state wanting to try and explain how i felt and in hope he would talk to me. His ex wife has also falsely accused me of sending her malicious emails and texts, this is most certainly not the case. I stopped him coming near me on the 26th July as i realised with professional help that he was controlling and manipulating me and i needed this to stop. He was causing more conflicts than i could cope with and then telling me to text him in a clearly distressed state in stead of talking to me about it, i realised what he was doing and trying to entrap me to make me look mentally unwell. I wasn't unwell despite what he was telling me, i was stressed and very frightened. I also stopped him coming as he had threatened me with eviction and an occupation order and told my Dad he would use my postnatal depression and fabricated lies he told people in October 2013 about me that had already been investigated and found to be untrue. I was so distressed i was being physically sick, shaking having to tell professional as i was scared at what he was going to do next if i spoke out, bursting into tears in front of Jessica's teachers, friends, minded children's parents, i couldn't eat or sleep and having to run out of shops feeling overwhelmed. His solicitor also phones my solicitor around the end of July and told us that Gary did not want to mediate or negotiate and was going to do the occupation order as a way to get me into court so a judge could have me and the children evicted with no regard to my interest, estoppel or implied trusts. Yet he had told me, my Dad and everyone else that would listen that it was me that was stopping the mediation. He constantly contradicts himself. It is then he contacted my Dad in an attempt to use my own father to control me. I went along with this initially on the understanding that neither Gary or i involved solicitors, threats of eviction or police and that mediation was to take place to discuss issues and Jessica on the 7th September. We both agreed to these terms and I kept to my word as you know but Gary did not contacted the police and had a notice put on me falsely accusing me of distressing him through texts and emails he'd asked me to send and then said he didn't. He had manipulated both my Dad and myself into believing he was going to mediate. I believe this was also done to cause me distress and intimidate me in the mediation as he had threatened to use it against me in court to my Dad if i did not agree to leave on his terms. He also told my Dad that i had texted him over 1000 times since April and that he had stopped me being arrested. This was manipulation of the truth and it affected my relationship with my Dad. I then had to find a new solicitor as my Dad innocently told Gary he wouldn't be supporting me past mediation, again fueling Gary's manipulation. He has also not got back to the mediator to arrange the mediation and was supposed to on the 16th October. Therefore i feel this is a 'course of conduct' to put me under pressure, frighten me and cause me distress in order to have me and the children evicted from our home through the court with no regard to my interests. I feel all his actions since April have been in order to control and manipulate me to cause me great distress. I believe this is in revenge of the letter of concern i sent about Gregory in March 2013. The conflicts have been put down in the face of pretending to want to mediate and be reasonable, he then contradicts himself so i become confused, manipulating me into texting and emailing him while distressed after causing upset to cause brick walls and then uses all this against me to threaten un negotiable goal posts so that mediation cannot take place and to cause me distress. This has been done in the hope i will give up my interest in the property and move out regardless of how that would affect the children's welfare. I don't know what to do anymore. I have written to his solicitor explaining the situation. I cannot move out until the financial side has been discussed as i sold my home, gave up my career and pension, we have debts, we made promises to each other etc etc. If i moved out i would loose all that i have put in, plus my job and my childrens home plus i wouldn't be able to pay the family debts. At the moment the children are safe, i am working in a job that we decided was best for us a family round Gary's shifts so i can pay my bills and debts and keep things going fairly normally for the children and they are safe in their own home. I just want to discuss with Gary what we are to do in their best interests in mediation. I don't want all these conflicts, dragging up stuff that has happened to us a couple, all this distress and control and manipulation. I just want to keep my children safe and be able to pay the bills and have my share of the relationship and what i've put in recognised so i can still have some sort of financial security.
He really scares me. He comes across so believable, reasonable and confident in his character. I have tried everything to get him to mediate and see Jessica despite his apparent lack of enthusiasm. I just don't know what to do when he is obviously saying one thing to people and contradicting it with his actions.
Thank you again for reading this.
I hope you can come back to me with some advice in regards to a harassment case as i'm not sure how much more i can take.
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I have had a response back to say that where he has treated me unfairly there is no criminal case.
Can anyone explain this to me please
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