Long story. Married for 11yrs. Signs of him being controlling from early on but didn't impact me so often and so badly til after birth of DD2. Emerged from PND 18m or so ago to realise that it was the way I was being treated that made me feel so awful and full of self-loathing but was only after I read a poster on back if McD's toilet door that I realised EA had a name and was a real thing. 13m ago (after uploading all my texts onto his laptop) he realised that maybe it was something about him that was making him feel so bad. After this came him reading LOADS of books of EA, going on a course, starting counselling, desperate to save marriage. I had already realised enough was enough but decided there was no harm in giving it time. 1yr on I've filed for divorce, he insists we have a future but has also said he 'over-confessed' a year ago and says my accusations of EA are built on lies. He refuses to leave the house and says if I go with the kids he'll get a court injunction as this is kidnapping. I feel that I'm being driven mad, he says I am emotionally abusing him. He does a lot for the kids and so has told me I won't get custody. He says I should leave the house if I can't stand things but won't go without my kids. Feel I'm on the edge but can't afford to look crazy or give any sign that I'm not able to look after kids. Feel trapped. Solicitor a few weeks ago said would start occupation order but not sure how long it will take. Will be calling her today. Hate how he manages to make me look like the crazy one and so hard to put down on paper emotional/psychological abuse. Help!