Separated from kids dad but he has moved into a shared house so can't take the kids there during his contact time with them. He's using this and claims that he is broke to insist on seeing the kids at my house.
When I have been in the house with him he's been acting innapropriately towards me despite knowing that I'm in a new relationship. Also, when I leave him with the kids he contacts me persistently and for no real reason. He's often late arriving for contact times and frequently changes his mind whether or not he will see the children at all.
We arranged for him to have contact twice a week but this is changing every week due to him having to do overtime at work or having social events. I literally don't know from day to day when he will see the kids so I've given up telling them to avoid their disappointment.
I'm getting to a point where it's wearing me down and putting pressure on my new relationship. It's also having a huge impact on my three and a half year old who has been acting out a lot.
Where do I stand with this? I have no idea where to turn for advice. Can I put my foot down and stop him coming to my house even though that means he would have to take them out every time he sees them? Ps he doesn't drive either.