Moving out

[lisaplus3]

Has anybody here left the marital home and left children with their Dad?
We have three boys 15, 14 & 14.
Together for 22 years, he is 14 yrs older than me, marriage been over for few years, I vowed to hang it out until all had left school & then leave, however for various reasons I now can not bear it anymore. He is adamant he is not leaving as he is not the one deciding it's over.
I sleep on sofa, feel very uncomfortable being here but don't feel right leaving the boys on a daily basis.
He is a good dad I have no issue them being with him & they do not want to move from house or village we currently live due to friends, school etc. it just does not seem right not being with them but at the same time it's pretty awful us all being here.
When it was briefly discussed with them earlier in year they said they didn't mind which one of us stayed as long as they could stay in same house etc and still see us both.
Friends I have discussed it with agree I should be the bigger one now and move out as I am not leaving the boys but him and a very unhappy life/home which can not continue for everyone's sake.
So just wondering anyone out there done it or contemplated it....with what outcome etc??
Thanks!!

Hi, I don't have experience but try the relationship board as there is much more traffic. Good luck

Have you started divorce proceedings? An agreement will have to be made about accommodation for all of you as part of that and mean that he can no longer just ignore the issue. I wouldn't move out until a financial settlement is in place myself but I suppose it depends on how unbearable it is in the meantime.

Yes I posted on the legal board a while ago about considering moving out( with the kids tho as mine are toddlers) and everyone was adamant - do not leave the family home without consulting a solicitor first. I did consult a solicitor in the end, and it basically just covers your back. Good luck

I am in the same situation. For me the marriage is over, has been for a while. Good dad to my two kids (12 and 9), but no chemistry whatsoever between us. I feel 'trapped'. He told me there is no way he would move out of the house or not have the children. I certainly don't want to leave my children either. We are both good parents and love them dearly. He said he doesn't want a divorce and if i am the unhappy one, it's me who should move out and sort myself. Very confused, anyone knows the woman's rights in this situation? Any women who have been through this and made a new life for themselves? Thanks you