Husband wants a divorce after 31 years together,25 married..

[Kimjayone]

July 27, 2015 at 8:16 pm

My husband who I have been with for 31 years married for 25 has told me two days ago that he no longer loves me and is wanting a divorce. There was no warning our sex has been regularly and I am completely in shock over this.
His mother passed away 18 months ago and he bacame very depressed.he started a new job and is out with his new circle of friends weekly.which I have been fine with.he stopped kissing,holding hands and hugging a few years ago and I crave affection.he never really has been a affectionate person and just pushes me away im feeling so confused and saddened with this news.I don’t know what to do.
Lynne

You poor thing, I didn't want to read and run. Can I suggest that you have this moved to the Relationships topic of the board or perhaps start a new thread there. The posters on there have the most wonderful advice, many have been exactly where you are.
I'm very sorry to say that I think it is likely that your husband has met someone else. Ask the Relationships ladies about "The Script", it's depressingly familiar.
For now, take it easy, keep breathing. Do you have anyone in real life that you could confide in and can be with you right now?

No matter how upset you are, your first action should be to see a solicitor. Doing so doesn't mean you agree with his desire for divorce, just that you need to protect yourself.

If you have joint bank accounts, please keep an eye on them. It is not uncommon for someone to start emptying or hiding accounts. Be sure you know where the money is and how much there is. Also be sure you keep or make copies of all important documents.

As painful as it is to hear, you really can't stop someone from leaving. Suggest counseling if you feel like it, but be prepared for him to say no. Don't beg or plead. As hard as it will be, try to maintain some composure and dignity. You will be glad down the road that you did, trust me.

Try to find one person in RL to confide in, you will need support in the coming months.

Gosh so sorry. I expect an ow too. I completely agree go to a solicitor just for advice.