Me & my partner seperated earlier in the year. I had been unhappy & felt like a single parent for many years, he had shown minimal interest in us as a family & minimal interest in the children. I found out he had been having an affair with a work colleague during these years and I asked him to leave. He refused to leave unless I agreed to shared parenting. I flatly refused on the grounds of his lack of interest for so many years. I have dedicated my life to my children, taking 4 years off work, on return to work, I worked hours so I could do school runs and be there for them. It is me that has been there for them every step of the way. He refused to leave until access agreements had been arranged & I reluctantly agreed in the end for the children to stay with him 2 nights a week. He currently has them one night in the week & a day&night at the weekend. They are also due to stay a week with him over the Summer holidays. Although it breaks my heart they are not here with me, the children have settled into the routine and are happy to see their dad and happy to be back home with me. I know that this is the most important thing that the children are happy, however I can't help but feel totally bereft without them and worry constantly. He recently told me that 2 nights isn't enough and has threatened to get a court order for more access. I'm so angry with his threats after is lack of interest for many years, also my children in September are entering a critical year in primary school, they are doing well in school & i'm worried if he goes through with it what harm this could do the children. I think under the circumstances of the separation I am being more than reasonable. Any advice?