Can I stop ex having overnights

[Lonelylass1218]

Me and my partner have just split up and have a 9month old lo. Lo is very unsettled at night time and I am working on this and having small improvements. Giving its me who will have lo the most of the time I want lo in a routine and to sleep peacefully at night. Ex has stated he wants lo for overnights 2 per week. I am happy for lo to spend the days there put do not want to have overnights until lo is sleeping better and a little older so not to get confused with what's going on. I said this to my ex in a message last night and no reply. If he doesn't agree and forces the over nights is there anything I can do?

Ps I obviously can't give legal advice and every situation will turn on its own facts but my understanding is that many family court judges would by sympathetic to the idea of daytime only for a child that young.

Am I wrong in thinking that, technically, you could refuse but that could only last as long as it took him to get a court order for it.
Is he reasonable? Would it be worth discussing a plan where you have no overnights for a month or two but full days then add in one overnight and increase it to two over time?
I don't really have any advice about the smoking. It's horrible but I don't think you could enforce any kind of ban.

God I would have faught tooth and nail if this was me.

I totally get where your coming from. DP could never spot DD sleep cues, the min she cried mil was trying to force calpol on her because 'it helps them sleep', FIL said he bed time was too early - 'the later the better and no naps' she would have been sat up drinking sugary drinks from a bottle over tired, over stimulated and crying her heart out.

I'd say no.