Hi, I'm new to mumsnet but I'd like some advice please..
I recently found out that my husband was cheating on me, there have been instances of emotional cheating (messaging, photos etc) previously but this time it was physical.
I've told him that I want to separate and plan towards divorce which he is not keen on.
When it came to telling our children it was very hard to decide on a reason to give them for the break up. Up until now we have been a very happy family and I just knew that they would never accept me saying we're just not happy together or similar because they know that we are/were. I took the decision to tell them that he had been unfaithful because I felt it was the only reason they could understand.
My husband is now telling them that he is sorry for what he did and HE wants us to try again and stay together.
How can I explain to them why this can't happen?? I don't want them to think that this is my fault because I won't give their Dad another chance.. To the youngest it seems so simple for him to say sorry and for me to accept that. What a mess :(