Just looking for some advice or anyone's experience really...
I've been with DH for 10 years, married for 5 and have DD aged 4. Things haven;t been great between us for the last few years but I don't know how to tell if things are bad enough to actually split up.
My partner says he still loves me, is a brilliant Dad, does his fair share roudn the house and is generally a good person. I know I won;t find a better man than him but I just feel I don;t love him anymore. Is that reason enough to put my daughter through all the upheaval of a divorce or should I jsut suck it up and accept that long term relationships aren't supposed to be any more than mediocre? We've not had sex for two years (my choice) and I have no physical interest in him. I just feel our relationship has run its course and if we didn't have child, mortgage etc together I would have left him by now.
We are talinkg about trying some couples counselling but it just feels like things have fizzled out and if we should divorce I feel it is better to do it while DD is as young as possible...
My parents also think the world of him and when I said things weren;t great they told me to just sort it out, so I would have to initiate a split knowing that pretty much everyone is against it except me.
I really appreciate that my situation must seem trivial but I am in such a mess going round in circles about what to do. The guilt at the thought of splitting and therefore putting my daughter in a worst financial situation and having less Dad time is killing me but I also don;t want her to grow up with our affectionless relationship as her role model for marriage.... or should I just accept that I should have thought harder about marrying this man and having a child with him earlier and now its too late I need to put DD first.... I just don;t know how I can fake it for the rest of her childhood, and then she'd still probably hate me when she moves out and we split anyway...
I'm rambling now... sorry.... just feeling a prize idiot for getting into this mess...