I think we're separating

[phantomhairpuller]

I haven't posted on MN for a very long time but I need some advice and I couldn't think of a better place to come. I think myself and my husband may be about to split up. There have been issues for years, some of which I have posted about on MN. I am well aware that I am far from perfect but I cannot be his emotional punchbag any more. I am fully aware that there are two sides to every story but I'm exhausted from years of playing this game.
We have a two year old and a four-year-old (who has just been accepted into a local school for September start). One of the issues I have is that we moved to this area with my husband's job four years ago but our families are 30 miles away and if we are separating I fully intend to move back down to the area that we came from i.e where support network is. The last thing I want to do is take his children away from him but he works full time and there is no way he could look after them during the week.
I have absolutely no idea where to turn or where to go to look for advice. I don't want to involve either of our families at this stage because I don't think it's fair on them.
Can anyone help me?

No one at all?

Didn't want to read and run. Ex p and I split 3 months ago, I did contemplate moving closer to family but have decided to stay put. I wrote a detailed list of pros and cons not including ex p at all because he is so unstable and unreliable. If you feel you'll be better supported near family to parent your children then you're doing the right thing. This will be an unsettling time for them whatever you do so don't be too hard on yourself whatever you decide. Unless he can offer guaranteed support as a parent then you have to do what's best and 30 miles isn't too far. You could stay put and then he could move remember x

Thanks 2little2late. Hopefully someone will be along today with more advice. I literally don't know what to do first. It's all such a mess.