What happened to your children when you split?

[beezlebop]

It is dawning on me that my relationship is emotionally abusive. It has been for a long time. The only thing in my mind that is slowing down my final decision is what will happen emotionally to our kids. I know that hearing and seeing their dad behaving like a fool is also damaging. I am hoping someone can tell me what happened, how their kids reacted and how they helped them. My daughter heard her dad shouting at me and was very upset in case we split which made me feel worse. Please help and thanks xxxxxxx

I found the strength to make my abusive husband leave is September and honestly me and the kids haven't looked back. They still see him a lot and have a good relationship with him.

The first couple of months were hard but they are much more settled and are doing brilliantly.

Got divorce from abusive husband in December. It hasn't been an easy process for our teens and we aren't through the woods yet, but their relationship with him is light years better. There was a year where he had very little contact with them. And then realised how alone he was, pulled his finger out, and has really built bridges and stepped up, as a parent, in a way he hadn't ever before, because I was doing it all.

And while it isn't easy, it is so much easier being in control of my own life than dancing to someone elses tune. I found the thread on Relationships about emotionally abusive relationships incredibly helpful when I was working through it all. Good luck