separated couples/kids sports/new blended family

[Tofupuppy]

Hi guys. Some advice would be appreciated please. I am in a blended family and have a 6yr old boy from a previous relationship. My ex is not interested in having me at his Saturday soccer games on her weekends. It is my thought that we should both be there supporting him, however she is being very difficult and wants to enroll him into 2 different sports so he goes to one with her and a different one with me. This seems ridiculous and childish. What are all your thoughts and how do you deal with sporting events with your ex's.

2 parents supporting one child at an activity is not necessary at all in any sort of family and, further, sounds like it would be actively stressful for everyone involved in your particular circumstances. Find something else for you and your boy to do together. Or just doing nothing in particular together can be lovely. If he reaches a final or something that would be different but practices and routine games, no.

I'd say keep it simple. If he's doing two different sports, does that mean he misses half the practices for each because of alternating weekends? Not a good plan for him or the team.

Try to make sure both of you can help him to get to his weekend game, and be interested, even if you can't watch it every week -- because that's what he'll need, not because it's what his parents need.

She sounds bonkers. You can stand apart for heavens sake!

It really isn't her decision to make and sounds like it could set a precedent for her thinking she gets to make those kinds of decisions. We have a good relationship with DH's ex but did need to go to mediation at one point when she lost sight of what was reasonable.

I understood this as you wanting to go along to the games when his mum is already there, Tofupuppy? However, I think Lancelottie is right that it would be problematic if he had to skip every other practice. Are you able to take him on your weekends with him?