My ex dh wants back child maintenance for the days and holidays he spends with our 2 dd

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Hello ladies, please advice. I live in Prague with our two DD´s (we are Czech) I have full child custody on them. My english ex dh has moved back to UK. He wants to see them aprox 5 weeks in year for holidays, but also wants me to return him money for the those weeks he has them from the child maintenance?!?! Aprox 30 pounds a day for both girls. My solicitor is strongly againts, but is that normal in UK? what is the etiquette there, as we are divorced under Czech law, child maintenance is returned to father, if he looks after the children for longer than 2 months. My ex´s dh has become troublemaker in all aspects, but due to children i want to be the one who is normal and willing to cooperate. Many thanks.....

The non-resident parent gets assessed for maintenance according to their salary, other children and so on. If they have the children for 52 or more days a year the amount is adjusted. Five weeks is 35 days so no adjustment is due. Your solicitor is right your ex isn't entitled to a refund.

Many thanks MinceSpy, this is reassurence, as he likes to point out that English family law is best and fair. He writes to me, that at least i should provide to girls aged 7 and 13 spending money when they are with him, which i find also cheap, but dont want the girls to feel with him badly, when he would refuse to buy them for example icecream, which already happened. He commented in front of them, your mother is getting enough money from me as it is.!!!
Best regards from Prague :-)

Stay strong you can do it. Just come back from Prague, a beautiful city :)

What a jackass!!!!

maintenance is a calculation based on his income v the number of nights he has them and the. divided by 12 tp give you a monthly figure so he has already had that factored into the amount he pays so tell him to knob off

Many thanks for the support ladies. He says that the cost of flying girls to UK is high and thats why he also wants the money back, during divorce he lived in Prague. But what about the spending money for girls, should I give it to them?

It sounds as if he's using your DV as weapons rather than thinking about what's best for their welfare. Would he genuinely have them for 5 weeks in the UK without buying them an ice cream etc? If so he sounds like a knob. I'd be tempted to hold firm and say that whilst the DC are with him they're his responsibility in terms of pocket money etc just as you provide when they're with you. Don't engage in petty arguments and power struggles with him