Hi everyone, apologies in advance, I am a bit emotional right now as have had yet another unpleasant encounter with my husband. This time, we were stuck in traffic heading home with an ill child. My 2 year old crying terribly as not very well and suddenly suck everywhere. I jump out the car to his side to get him out and comfort him, the whole time my husband in my ear giving me grief! No thought to his sick child!! I just wanted to scream but couldn't because I wanted to make sure my baby was ok.
He has been violent in the past, but mainly is verbally abusive. We argue all the time over the littlest thing and that sets him off into loads of abuse. We try to contain it in front of our child, bit to be honest that's why I want out. Because I know no matter how much we thing think he's sheltered, in the end it's an unhappy home.
The issue I have is we are both in the military. He's just back from 4 months away and it's been bliss. Don't get me wrong - working full time, with a 2 year old and a dog, up at 5am every morning is hard work. But it was peaceful...and happy! But now he's home we are all miserable, walking on egg shells and uncomfortable. Our mortgage is joint and I am due to go away in wig for 4 months. I don't know what to do. I know I need to rely on him to be a dad and take over while I'm away. This will mean that he needs to stay at home with our child. How do I make a clean (ish) break? I feel totally trapped. I have no family around either which adds to the isolation I feel. If anyone has any advice if greatly appreciate it. Sorry for the huge rant.