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Advice on where adulterous husband should live whilst we divorce

16 replies

StrongAsAnOx · 05/02/2015 09:14

Husband having an affair and wants to remarry. He is not in a position to live with his new partner until she is divorced and has sold her house. He has not sorted out alternative accommodation. To save on costs should I let him remain in the family home living in a separate bedroom until he is able to move in with her?

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dragonfly007 · 05/02/2015 09:17

I wouldn't / couldn't .... I would be chucking his ass on the street !

mrsnoon · 05/02/2015 09:18

The shed?

Annarose2014 · 05/02/2015 09:20

One word: bedsit.

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StrongAsAnOx · 05/02/2015 09:22

Yes emotionally that is my thought too, but really practically I don't want to waste precious money on his accommodation. I am really after some legal insight here.

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DPotter · 05/02/2015 09:23

This must be a difficult time for you, but I think you need to concentrate on you and your children if you have any. I think you should make him leave now - it's his problem if he hasn't sorted out accommodation. And I think you need to stop worrying about him - he clearly isn't worrying about you

SoupDragon · 05/02/2015 09:23

Why do you need legal insight? There are no laws to cover where an adulterous partner should live.

DPotter · 05/02/2015 09:26

Look lets be realistic - the OW divorce could take ages. Are you content to let him share your home whilst he's all lovey-dovey with this new woman. I think it's disrespectful of him to even think he can stay with you. There's no incentive for him and her to get their act together - kick him out. He can go and live at hers. Oh what her husband wouldn't like it - why should you. Sometime you have to invest a bit to get the reward - in your case the spce to recover and move on

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StrongAsAnOx · 05/02/2015 09:44

Thanks, I shall think on.

Yes there are lots of children involved. She has 4 from 2 marriages and I have 3 from my one marriage.

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StrongAsAnOx · 05/02/2015 10:02

And DPotter - you are right. Good advice. Thank you.

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STIDW · 05/02/2015 14:12

You can't "throw" him out. Legally because you are married both spouses have exactly the same rights to live in the former matrimonial home and adultery has nothing to do with it.

amroc18 · 05/02/2015 14:19

What STIDW said... Although can understand why you would want to.

Also worth considering where he would fund staying somewhere else-if from savings could have the potential to reduce any settlement amount depending how long your divorce takes

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StrongAsAnOx · 05/02/2015 17:43

So what do most people do in these circumstances? Do they stay living in the same house until the divorce is sorted out? Even while one spouse continues their affair?

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toomanyprojects · 05/02/2015 19:45

You may be entitled to things like additional child tax credit if he moves out. Our total cominbined income is £1000 per month higher now that we are separated.

Piratespoo · 05/02/2015 19:59

Why would you be paying for it? Send him a link to Spare Room and you don't pay for it. He needs to be paying for a roof over his dc's heads too.

bella1968 · 06/02/2015 15:30

sorry........................absolutely no, you need to address your's and your children's needs not his, he has wiped his hands of your needs he has made his bed, now he can lie in it!

Loud and clear - kick him out and say goodbye, live your life and be happy.

Good luck and be strong.

CalleighDoodle · 21/02/2015 20:08

Hell no. Respect yourself. He leaves. Then sort tax credits and council tax reduction. Is he not working?

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