I have been in an ea relationship for 13 years and we have 2 kids. Last year I was at breaking point and after much planning, told him I wanted a divorce. He acted at first like he was fine with it but a couple of weeks later was begging me to change my mind. He wore me down a lot for weeks until finally I gave in.
He was great for about 8 or 9 months but has lately started to be abusive again. I try to remind him that I won't stand for it again but he just laughs and truths it around. Just had a massive row and he's left with all his things, the problem is that we're staying with family at the moment as our house is in the middle of major work and he said he's refusing to finish the house and that he'll just turn it into two flats!
The truth is that I don't feel strong like I did last time and I have to pretend that I'm strong because it's the only way he'll take me seriously. I'm not sure where I stand with divorce if we're not currently living in our home. Just a bit of moral support needed :(