I wish I knew enough to be able to resolve this on my own, or at least know where to start looking and whom to speak to.
Husband and I are v unhappy and short term prognosis is for us to separate in the next few years. We'd have done it already but my income is too low and my job and requisite commute too far away for it to work if I'm on my own. My hope is that in the next 18 months-2 years we can split when I'm in a better place career/finance wise. Meanwhile, my husband - I have recently found out - is still having finance dramas relating to the wife he divorced years ago. They never settled their financial arrangements legally (why!? I do not know). Now she is in touch wanting to get it all sorted formally (I'm not surprised; he is dreadful with finances and I'm certain he'd stop sending her anything on a whim if he felt like it). The issue is that he has a generous public sector final salary pension at stake. Clearly, I have an interest in that, but so does she.
I'm now trying to work out what the best thing to do is. If she gets a
Pension Sharing Order before I split from my husband also, how will it impact on me when I subsequently
go through the divorce and attempt to also gain some sort of favourable terms? I had to take some rubbish career moves over the past few years (hence my poor financial position) on order to loo after our child, so I do feel rather as though I should have something from him to compensate. I don't know if that counts for anything in real terms, though.
Anyone with any experience / legal knowledge would be much appreciated at this point!