Should You Change Your Name Back After Divorce?

[OctaviaZest]

Do you go back to your maiden name? If you do keep it do you wait to change till a possible next marriage?

If have do kept his name, why?

Thank you,

I'm going back asap.

I can't wait.

I think it depends how long you had the name for. I wasn't married for long and it never felt like my name. Now it signifies someone who I think is a total cunt and I hate the rest of his family too.

So I don't want the name any more. In fact I wish I'd never taken it in the first place.

I've often wondered why some women keep their exHs names. As for me, I changed it back as soon as I separated. I'm getting married again next year and will take his name.

I am keeping my married name as detested maiden name and did a professional qualification when newly married so am registered in married name. Also want to keep same surname as dcs. And all bank stuff bills etc in married name

I'd keep my married name, I would want to keep the same surname as my DS.

What you 'should' do is whatever you want and world best for you.
There are pluses and minuses to both sides of the coin, but certainly no wrong or right.

I've kept the name I've had since marrying XH. It's my name now - it wasn't on loan from him.

I would go back to my maiden name were it not for my DDs and the hassle to travel overseas with them with a different name

I would go back to my maiden name were it not for my DDs and the hassle to travel overseas with them with a different name

DM kept it but she had had that surname for more than half her life so in a way it was more hers than her maiden name.

I went back to my maiden name. If we'd had children I probably would have hyphenated.

The only reason I wouldn't is the dc, maybe when they are older

I've kept my married name as I was married for over 33 years and that's what friends knew me as.

My children and grandchildren have that name.

I'm even thinking of keeping it when I remarry.

I would like to change mine back but neither DS or I would like to have different surnames from each other.

You should do what you want.

Partly it's going to depend on why you changed it in the first place, I imagine. If you came at it from the "I want to have the same name as my children" point of view, then presumably that still applies and (if you have children) you still want to have the same name as them; if you took the "we got married to join together as a pair and go through life together" approach then now you're no longer a pair you're likely to want a name that reflects that.

Do whatever you want. It's legally your name and you can what you like with it.
I was married for nearly 10 years and have 1 dc. My married name is plain and common and I don't like it, I used to quite like my maiden name. I wouldn't mind having different surname name to dc and sure they wouldn't either but I can't be arsed with all the document changing plus I am so used to this name now.

I kept it for so many reasons.

1. It took many months to get all my professional qualifications changed when I got married and I can't bothered with that.
2. For DC we are the same.
3. All my business accounts are set up in this name and as I am a sole trader changing is again a hassle and potentially could disrupt the line of credit with my supplier which would be disastrous for my business.