What to put on divorce petition re financial.order

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I am predicting ex will refuse mediation to sort out finances. So do,I tick box saying I want court settlement or should I ask my solicitor to write to him?
Want to submit petition myself if possible to,save costs . Abusive too so I am not mad keen on mediation but I want to sort this ASAP after waiting years to do this. I plan to have the talk in a few days and give him option,of mediation first or straight to filing for divorce. Should be fun as we still live together!
Thanks for any advice.

lots of info here www.wikivorce.com/divorce/ there are lots of people incl solicitors that can help you with advise on what to do and how to save some money

good luck

I did all my divorce paper work myself and found this site invaluable:
www.moneyanddivorce.co.uk/p/practical-guides.html?m=1
I am now divorce and going through the Financial Remedy process.
Good luck

As far as I know, mediation is compulsory for 99.99% of the population - a recent change making it part of the divorcing process if you cannot agree finances between yourselves.

After mediation fails (which it frequently does if you're married to a twat), then you go back through FDA/FDR (the court system) with a document called an FM1.

So, if he doesn't turn up, you get the sheer joy of paying your costs to get there, the cost of the session, just to get a box ticked that says 'I am divorcing a twat'.

Isn't that lovely.

So do I need to go along to mediation for an assessment, let them write to him, and then when he refuses /misses the appt they can sign the document saying that ?

I'm not sure whether it has to be court ordered first or not (I'm one of the 0.01%)

I've just looked at my copy of Gordon & Slater Family Law Made Simple, and it seems to suggest (but doesn't spell out) that

You apply to the court for Financial Remedy, and then you tick the box you have attempted to resolve all other possible avenues.

So I read this that you have to attempt the process, make an appointment, get it in writing from the Mediator that you've done this and he has refused, and then you continue through the court-led process.

Worth double checking though.