sorry ladies this is an extremely frustrated woman who's stbexh is divorcing her and he expects her to pay the costs because its HER fault that the marriage has broken down. He refuses to go to see her 'friend'!!!!!!!! the mediator and refuses to contact his solicitor because it costs him money. He refuses to see that if we go to court it will cost thousands if not more whereby he will have to have a solicitor and if he just sits down with his stbexw to sort things out and realise that no judge is going to let either of the parties have sole residence (custody) of the children and that they have to share it and possibly either sell the house or someone lives with the children then this whole thing is going to take months and possibly years because of his stubborness.
I have asked my solicitor if I can move out of the property with the children and am looking at places to rent for 6 months. I'm going to put all the bills back into our joint names, have the meters read. He can pay all the bills where he now lives because he moved back into the property on Sunday (left 12th June) and by his sheer presence is causing tension and unrest and unhappiness etc etc!!!! I'm sick of the useless stubborn things (I can't even call it a man he doesn't know the meaning of the word!!!!) I am so angry right now and tense, my back and neck are killing me, I can't focus on my job which is busy right now and I just want him gone. I want to come off anti-depressants and leave a normal happy life but he's trying to make that difficult.
Even though I'd told him that I'd called the court and also my solicitor had written to his to ask for an extension on filing the acknowledgement slip because my sol was on holiday all that was ok, he said I should have filed by 18th, which was not the case as that's when my sol came back from holiday and was really busy. She wrote to his sol though but over a week nearly 2 weeks now and we have received no reply, I told him to call his solicitor and get them to respond. He said he's not going to because it costs him money "!!!!!!! how else does he think that we are going to sort this out!!??? he won't speak to me to sort it out he won't speak to his solicitor but I'm assuming the he realises he will have to eventually, does he think that this is going to go on for years?!!!!! why would any thing (man!!) want to live in a house with his kids and the wife he's divorcing who's face he wants to put a fist through (so he told my son, who's 11)
Gosh how can I go on????? it's only been 4 days, I'm 45, I've suffered his abuse for long enough and I want my life back. He's a useless, stubborn, self centred, pig, I could go on but I'm so blocked by all the things that I could call him right now it's not worth my time!!
Please ladies help, what on earth can I do??